|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on September 7, 2016 at 3:35 AM||comments (0)|
Most of us are raised to believe that it's a good idea to have goals. We're taught to work hard to reach our dreams. We're told that with persistence and dedication, we will eventually get from point A (where we are now) to point B (some idealized place in the future). This line of thinking is even embedded in our education system, where grades act as carrots to push us toward what's next. And next. And next. Alan Watts describes this pe...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 at 3:45 AM||comments (0)|
Over the past month I've been updating my website with a few new headshots and banners that include the sentence "Create a Life You Love." The theme of creating a life you love has been my motto since I started blogging in 2010, and I've learned a lot from sharing my experiences and journey.
One of the main things I've learned is that, contrary to what you might think, creating a life you love isn't easy or ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 at 4:05 AM||comments (0)|
On August 10th 2015 my husband and I boarded a plane in Toronto to start a new chapter of our lives. After a 10 hour flight we landed in Prague, Czech Republic. Our decision was very intentional. I'd just quit my job at Harvard Medical School, and we'd spent the past two months saying good-bye to fr...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 at 3:20 AM||comments (3)|
When I was younger I had a vast imagination. I was obsessed with all things fantasy. I loved unicorns, fairies, witches, trolls, and gnomes. I created entire worlds in my mind - medieval lands where I interacted with people in King Arthur's court. I believed that I had magical powers, and would often try to cast spells or speak with fairies or make unicorns appear in my bedroom. I loved being in the woods, where I hunted for fantastical creatures and nurtured my sense of wonder.
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 at 3:25 AM||comments (2)|
These days the internet is full of people who left their jobs to "follow their bliss" or "pursue their passion." They leapt, and the net appeared. They run six-figure online businesses from their living rooms (and you can too if you purchase their 5-step program for $500 per month!). Sometimes these people maintain blogs. And sometimes they write pieces about how you should leave your meaningless 9 to 5 existence to create art in Bali or surf in Hawaii.
I think three main qu...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on June 14, 2016 at 3:25 AM||comments (6)|
Sometimes I worry that the people who read my blog might think I'm woo-woo or airy fairy or "out there." I wonder if people lump me in with other self-helpers who promise eternal happiness in three easy steps. I ponder whether my words reek of false positivity - like a band-aid too small to cover a large wound.
In sitting with these feelings, I realized they come from a deep rooted need that I've always had: the need to belong. When I was younger, I never felt like I belonge...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on June 1, 2016 at 3:50 AM||comments (0)|
Age is a funny thing. Sometimes we look younger than we are, or feel older than we look. Some people have "old souls" that impart wisdom from a young age, while others maintain a childlike sense of wonder well into their 90s.
No matter how old we are, most of us have one thing in common: fear. We are all afraid of something. You might be afraid of death, or spiders, or subways, or seaweed. You might be afraid of failure - or even of success. Modern society makes it p...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on May 19, 2016 at 3:45 AM||comments (0)|
Do you have a nagging issue that's bothered you for years? Yeah, me too. I've spent decades experimenting with a cornucopia of ways to get rid of my issues. I've tried:
Personal development workshops
Healthy ea...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on May 4, 2016 at 8:55 AM||comments (0)|
Recently, while doing yoga, an image appeared in my mind's eye. The image was of myself as a teen. Actually, it was more than just an image. It was a feeling. I was reminded, in mind and body, of what life felt like back then. And I was infused with a deep sense of compassion for the young woman who was struggling to find her way through her teens and early twenties.
While my early years weren't as devastating or traumatic as what many people go through, I experienced my fa...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on April 18, 2016 at 7:25 AM||comments (2)|
Last week I gave a lecture on "Religion, Spirituality, and Well-Being" for an undergraduate Positive Psychology course that I'm teaching. The lecture covered a range of topics, with a particular focus on scientific and individual explorations of what some call "transcendent experiences." These experiences are extremely difficult to define, but they've been reported by religious and non-religious people throughout history.
Take, for example,Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on April 4, 2016 at 7:55 AM||comments (2)|
Many people struggle with procrastination. No matter how hard they try, they can't seem to get started on whatever it is they're supposed to be doing. There always seems to be something more interesting competing for their attention, like the latest episode of the Kardashians or Beyonce's Instagram feed.
For much of my life, I've joked that I'm incapable of procrastination. In university, friends often envied my inability to skip class or pull all-nighters or hand in ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on March 23, 2016 at 4:45 AM||comments (0)|
Do you ever find yourself stuck in a rut? One minute you feel on track, tapped into your authenticity, and blazing with enthusiasm. Then, for no apparent reason, you lose it. Negative thoughts start having a party in your psyche. You feel off track, disconnected, and like someone poured ice on your fire.
You fall off the "Soul wagon," so to speak.
Lately I've been feeling like someone took my Soul wagon, turned it upside down, and dumped me in a forest of ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on March 6, 2016 at 8:40 AM||comments (2)|
In February I decided to take a break from social media. No Facebook. No Twitter. No blogging. Prior to this, I was posting and tweeting daily, and writing a blog every 2 weeks. As an avid user of social media, I was nervous that my February Facebook Fast would result in some serious withdrawal symptoms.
I'm happy to report, however, that my detox actual...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on January 27, 2016 at 7:00 PM||comments (3)|
Facebook often gets a bad rap. Some say that social media is causing our real relationships to deteriorate while turning us into screen-addicted zombies. Others argue that social media – and much of the internet – is a mechanism for shameless self-promotion that allows us to express endless self-obsession through posts about everything from our child’s first bowel movement to what we ate for lunch.
Personally, however, I quite enjoy social media. An...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on January 12, 2016 at 7:10 AM||comments (0)|
For most of my life I’ve been a “yes woman.” I often agree with what people say, sometimes before I’ve even thought through what they said. Someone might share their opinion about recent political events or something that’s going on in their relationship, and before I realize what I’m doing, I find myself nodding and “mhmm’ing” in agreement.
I think one of the main reasons I do this is to avoid confl...Read Full Post »