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|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on April 4, 2017 at 10:35 AM||comments (6)|
You might have noticed a sense of “lost-ness” that’s come up rather regularly in my blogs over the past 6 to 12 months. My reasons for feeling lost are varied. They are professional and personal, small and large, deep and shallow. And while I won’t go into all of the details here, I’d like to share a couple of themes that have been coming up for me during this time.
First, I feel like my tolerance for in-authenticity has reached an all-time l...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on February 21, 2017 at 10:20 AM||comments (0)|
When I respond to questions about my professional background and current job, my answer often involves keywords like “Harvard,” "PhD," “consulting,” “research,” “psychology,” “yoga,” and “Prague.” These words make it sound like I have my shit together and even (perhaps) like I live an interesting life. And while this is true (to some extent) I think it’s important to highlight the underbelly of a career that has oft...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on January 24, 2017 at 4:00 AM||comments (1)|
A couple of months ago I wrote my first blog on the topic of sacred sexuality. It was a blog that I was nervous to publish, but (to my surprise) it ended up receiving quite a bit of support. So I’ve decided to open the door a little more by sharing three basic practices that I’ve been using in these initial stages of my journey. This blog is written for w...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on January 3, 2017 at 4:00 AM||comments (4)|
Back in November I shared a few details about my current journey into the unknown. Part of this journey has involved a deep exploration into who I am, what I want, and how I can be of service in the world. I am still very much in this dark, murky exploration, and very few answers have revealed themselves. However, one consistent response seems to arise when I ponder questions about w...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on November 16, 2016 at 7:30 AM||comments (8)|
A few weeks ago I received some disappointing news. A book proposal that I’d been working on with a small publishing company was suddenly, and surprisingly, rejected. The idea for the book had been percolating in my mind for 4 years, and I spent 2 years sharing my concepts and ideas with the acquisitions editor. She gave me very encouraging feedback all along the way, which is why I was so surprised when she wrote to tell me her publisher was rejecting my work.
Howe...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on November 2, 2016 at 6:00 AM||comments (0)|
Those of you who read my blog regularly know that I write from a pretty vulnerable place. I share a lot of personal details about my struggles, my joys, and the various teachers who have inspired my journey. In this blog I’m taking my vulnerability to a new level. You see, for the past 2 years or so I’ve been learning about (and greatly inspired by) a topic that I rarely (if ever) mention publicly.
The topic is sacred sexuality.
In refl...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on October 19, 2016 at 3:35 AM||comments (0)|
I recently started spending every Thursday with my soul (AKA my true self). This means that I do everything in my power to keep my To Do list as empty as possible on Thursdays. This new routine is terrifying for my false self, which tends to be an overachieving workaholic. In fact, when I first started celebrating soul days my false self created huge To Do lists full of self-help activities like reading motivational books, watching inspirational videos, and going for walks in nature.Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on October 5, 2016 at 3:35 AM||comments (0)|
These days a lot of people complain about how everyone has their faces stuck in their phones. It seems like everywhere you look, people are texting, scrolling, and talking their way out of the present moment. Now before you stop reading, let me make it clear that this blog isn't about bashing technology or complaining about millennials. Personally, I think technology is awesome. And besides, this isn't only a "young people" problem. This weekend I was having brunch at a beautiful cafe ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on September 20, 2016 at 4:50 AM||comments (4)|
These days there's a plethora of self-help books and online courses aimed at helping you find your passion and live your purpose (full disclosure: I offer such a course). Many of us get hooked very quickly on the idea of monetizing our passion. We want to make money doing what we love and we want to make the world a better place in the process. This is a noble goal, and if you're lucky enough to have achieved ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on September 7, 2016 at 3:35 AM||comments (0)|
Most of us are raised to believe that it's a good idea to have goals. We're taught to work hard to reach our dreams. We're told that with persistence and dedication, we will eventually get from point A (where we are now) to point B (some idealized place in the future). This line of thinking is even embedded in our education system, where grades act as carrots to push us toward what's next. And next. And next. Alan Watts describes this pe...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on August 24, 2016 at 3:45 AM||comments (0)|
Over the past month I've been updating my website with a few new headshots and banners that include the sentence "Create a Life You Love." The theme of creating a life you love has been my motto since I started blogging in 2010, and I've learned a lot from sharing my experiences and journey.
One of the main things I've learned is that, contrary to what you might think, creating a life you love isn't easy or ...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on August 10, 2016 at 4:05 AM||comments (0)|
On August 10th 2015 my husband and I boarded a plane in Toronto to start a new chapter of our lives. After a 10 hour flight we landed in Prague, Czech Republic. Our decision was very intentional. I'd just quit my job at Harvard Medical School, and we'd spent the past two months saying good-bye to fr...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on July 27, 2016 at 3:20 AM||comments (2)|
When I was younger I had a vast imagination. I was obsessed with all things fantasy. I loved unicorns, fairies, witches, trolls, and gnomes. I created entire worlds in my mind - medieval lands where I interacted with people in King Arthur's court. I believed that I had magical powers, and would often try to cast spells or speak with fairies or make unicorns appear in my bedroom. I loved being in the woods, where I hunted for fantastical creatures and nurtured my sense of wonder.
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on July 13, 2016 at 3:25 AM||comments (2)|
These days the internet is full of people who left their jobs to "follow their bliss" or "pursue their passion." They leapt, and the net appeared. They run six-figure online businesses from their living rooms (and you can too if you purchase their 5-step program for $500 per month!). Sometimes these people maintain blogs. And sometimes they write pieces about how you should leave your meaningless 9 to 5 existence to create art in Bali or surf in Hawaii.
I think three main qu...Read Full Post »
|Posted by Bethany Butzer, Ph.D. on June 14, 2016 at 3:25 AM||comments (6)|
Sometimes I worry that the people who read my blog might think I'm woo-woo or airy fairy or "out there." I wonder if people lump me in with other self-helpers who promise eternal happiness in three easy steps. I ponder whether my words reek of false positivity - like a band-aid too small to cover a large wound.
In sitting with these feelings, I realized they come from a deep rooted need that I've always had: the need to belong. When I was younger, I never felt like I belonge...Read Full Post »